In our first session on friendship, we looked carefully at the following important principles of building solid friendships:
- Friendship must be God-centered.
- Friendship includes the formation of a commitment/covenant accompanied by a tangible sign(s) of that commitment.
- Friendship is dependent on faithfulness and love.
- Friends show candor and give counsel.
- Purity of heart and gracious speech will make friends.
- True friendship is reciprocal and displays the following character qualities: nonjudgmental, accepting, genuine, self-disclosing, trusting, loving, caring, committed, strong, firm, empathic, willing to listen, loyal, and able to compromise.
- Friendship is listening to the heart, helping a friend to understand his heart.
- Friendship is getting in touch with your friend's unique spirituality, with what God is doing in his life.
- Friendship is getting in touch with the spiritual questions your friend might be asking at each stage in his/her life.
That's what godly, committed and covenantal friendship is all about. But just as important is that we know what are the inappropriate expressions of friendship.